The
Greatest Love Story in the Prophet’s Life
The Tale of
Khadija’s Necklace and Aisha’s Jealousy… How Women Guided Hamza ibn
Abdul-Muttalib and Umar ibn Al-Khattab to Faith
Friday, 5th
Ramadan 1440 AH – May 10, 2019 – Issue No. 48367**
*By Dr.
Muhammad Hussein Abul-Hasan*
Women were
the first believers, the first martyrs, and the builders of Islamic
civilization… And "the fragile vessels" (a metaphor for women) are
one of the keys to Paradise.
How do
extremists and "advocates of jihad al-nikah" (a distorted concept of
marriage) contradict Islam’s teachings regarding women?
An
overwhelming silence, where one could almost hear the pulse of blood in the
veins. A stillness wrapped in majesty inside a secluded cave atop a mountain. A
descendant of Abraham, accustomed to living in purity, contemplating with
patience, observing with insight, and worshipping in piety—a devoted man kept
awake by longing and sleeplessness. Then, destiny whispered into the ear of the
future.
The heavenly
messenger descended, carrying God’s light—a divine charter for humanity. The
heavens proclaimed their chosen one. Muhammad ibn Abdullah became the Messenger
of the Lord of the Worlds. Everything changed for eternity. The chemistry of
time, of people, of life—faith surged forth in its blessed might, while
disbelief staggered and falsehood crumbled.
The
"charge of light" from the Highest Heavens was overwhelming. Though
the Chosen One had been prepared meticulously—destined by the Almighty to bring
salvation to the world, to carry God’s word through righteous prophecy,
irrefutable proof, and bestowed mercy—Muhammad’s encounter with the Trustworthy
Gabriel was not easy.
"Read,"
Gabriel said, embracing him tightly until he was utterly exhausted. (Note that
the command was "Read," not "Pray" or "Fast."
This was the beginning of a civilization founded on reading, knowledge, and
learning.) The embrace was repeated three times, each time bringing him near
death—so he could bear the weight of the message, the trials of struggle, and the
divine power bestowed upon him. Then came the glad tidings: *"O Muhammad,
you are the Messenger of God.
Overwhelmed,
the Prophet trembled. The angel vanished. Muhammad staggered through the sand,
reaching his home, collapsing into the arms of his wife, Khadija bint
Khuwaylid. He told her what had happened. She went to her wise cousin, Waraqa
ibn Nawfal, to verify the event, then returned to reassure her
husband—affirming his radiant role in humanity’s future. *"You are the
Messenger of God, like Moses and Jesus before you.
What Khadija
did was worthy of a woman chosen by fate to be the companion of the Prophet.
The renowned French Orientalist Emile Dermenghem, in his book *The Life of
Muhammad*, elaborates on Khadija’s reaction when her husband returned from Cave
Hira, frightened and shaken. She restored his calm, showering him with a
lover’s tenderness, a wife’s devotion, and a mother’s care, embracing him and
saying:
You uphold
kinship, bear others' burdens, assist the needy, honor guests, and stand for
truth. God will never forsake you."*
Khadija
surpassed all men and women in faith. Her kindness remains a debt upon every
Muslim until Judgment Day!
Biographical
accounts agree that she first employed young Muhammad in her trade. Witnessing
his honesty, integrity, and trustworthiness, she married him despite his
poverty—choosing him over Quraysh’s wealthy elites who sought her hand. Her
admiration for him, as Al-Isfahani notes in *Proofs of Prophethood*, was
profound. She was the first to believe in his message, before all
others—supporting him when people denied him, sheltering him when they expelled
him, and financing his mission when he dedicated himself to prophethood.
Whenever
grief weighed on him, she eased his heart. It was as if God created Muhammad
and Khadija as a true love story—a model for all lovers, all spouses seeking
righteousness and success. The Orientalist Margoliouth, in *Muhammad and the
Rise of Islam*, even marks the Prophet’s life from the day he met Khadija,
while dating his migration to Medina from the day Mecca lost her.
When
relentless trials befell the Muslims, Khadija stood firm as a
mountain—steadfast and resolute. God took her two young sons, Qasim and
Abdullah, yet she endured with patience. She bid farewell to her daughter
Ruqayya and son-in-law Uthman ibn Affan as they migrated to Abyssinia. She
witnessed her husband’s unwavering commitment to truth, refusing to compromise
even slightly. Alongside his uncle Abu Talib, she supported the Prophet with
all her wealth, influence, and strength.
Paganism was
confounded. The disbelievers unleashed brutal torment upon the faithful.
Quraysh boycotted the Muslims, besieging them—yet Khadija stood firm,
abandoning her home to endure three years of hardship in the valley with her
beloved Prophet (peace be upon him), suffering hunger, thirst, and poverty
despite her noble wealth—until the siege collapsed.
For her
immense virtue, God Almighty granted her glad tidings of Paradise. Gabriel once
told the Prophet: *"O Messenger of God, Khadija comes to you with a vessel
of food. When she arrives, convey greetings from her Lord and from me, and give
her the good news of a house in Paradise—a tranquil abode free from clamor and
toil."*
Khadija was
Muhammad’s first love, a love that permeated his heart. She embodied the
highest forms of devotion and sacrifice. The noble Prophet said of her:
*"The best women of Paradise are Khadija bint Khuwaylid, Fatima bint
Muhammad, Maryam bint Imran, and Asiya bint Muzahim, the wife of
Pharaoh."*
He married
no other woman during her lifetime. The year of her death (along with Abu
Talib’s) was named *"The Year of Sorrow."* He stood alone, grieving
their separation—her memory an eternal flame in his heart. He often remembered
her, favoring her above all his wives.
Lady Aisha
once said: *"I was never more jealous of any of the Prophet’s wives than I
was of Khadija—though I never saw her. But he mentioned her so often, even
slaughtering a sheep and distributing its meat among her friends."* Once,
she remarked: *"It’s as if Khadija was the only woman in the world!"*
The Prophet, still enamored, replied: *"She was indeed… and she bore me
children."* Despite his deep love for Aisha, his love for Khadija
surpassed all. Though she passed away, she never left his soul.
After the
Battle of Badr, when the polytheists sought to ransom their captives—including
Al-As ibn Al-Rabi’, the husband of the Prophet’s daughter Zainab (though Islam
had separated them)—Zainab sent a ransom with *Khadija’s necklace* included.
When the Prophet saw it, his heart softened. He asked his companions: *"If
you see fit to release her captive and return her wealth, do so."* They
agreed.
See how
Khadija’s necklace stirred his emotions (peace be upon him)—how he pleaded for
Zainab’s sake, and how his companions compassionately obliged. And why not? It
was the necklace of the woman whose virtues left the Prophet in awe. She gave
him everything—herself, her effort, her wealth, her home—yet never boasted. She
became a role model for all women, earning God’s pleasure.
Since the
world was shaken by this *"Great News"* and Islam’s light illuminated
the earth, Khadija remains a radiant spirit from the past—stirring emotions,
inspiring awe at her wisdom and greatness. In her home, God’s light descended
upon His Messenger’s heart, with Khadija as his shield against trials. A woman
without equal, endowed with purity, faith, and readiness to embrace truth.
In the
eighth year after Hijra, the Prophet (peace be upon him) entered Mecca. At
night, he did not stay in any companion’s home—instead, he pitched his tent
beside Khadija’s grave, as if the conquest had unlocked springs of memory.
Once, they were Islam’s only followers amidst a sea of disbelief. Now, the pain
of separation mingled with the joy of victory, and the Prophet’s heart
whispered: *"You were right, Khadija, when you said: 'God will never
forsake you.'"*
Many know
famous love stories—Antara and Abla, Qays and Layla, Romeo and Juliet—but few
recognize history’s greatest love story: Muhammad and Khadija. The Prophet’s
actions show that Islam is not just laws, morals, and beliefs—but also a
religion of love, peace, and mercy, elevating human emotions toward all
creation, especially one’s beloved spouse.
Yet
extremists today forget this. Look at ISIS’s atrocities, degrading
humanity—especially women—through practices like "jihad al-nikah."
Some hardliners see women as inferior, forgetting that the first to bow to God
after the Prophet was a woman (Khadija), the first martyr was a woman (Sumayya),
and women were key to the conversion of Hamza ibn Abdul-Muttalib and Umar ibn
Al-Khattab.
They ignore
the Prophet’s repeated commands to treat women well—calling them *"fragile
vessels"* and honoring them: *"Whoever cares for three daughters,
showing them kindness, mercy, and education, will enter Paradise."* When
companions asked about two daughters, he said the same. Even for one daughter,
the promise held.
His final
words before death were: *"Fear God regarding prayer, and treat women
well."* He linked the two—because prayer reflects one’s bond with God, and
kindness to women reflects strength and nobility.
When the
Prophet’s soul departed, it rose from the chest of a woman—Aisha. The first to
join him after death was a woman—his daughter Fatima, six months later.
Muhammad
ignited the blessed flame, and God decreed its light would never fade. Among
those who fanned that flame, none shone brighter than Khadija—his beloved wife.
Their relationship exemplifies woman’s lofty status in Islam and love’s power
to work miracles, guiding from darkness to light, from despair to hope.
Why don’t we
follow our noble Prophet’s example? Did God not say: You have in the Messenger
of God an excellent example."*
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